Thursday, June 23, 2011

Word for the day: Acceptance

We've all been in that situation in life... do I fit in? Do people like me? Why don't they like me? Why am I sitting at home? Why are my kids playing alone today? Is it because of me? Blah Blah Blah...
No one likes to feel this way.
Which brings me to what has been on my mind lately...


We all want to feel a part of something. We all want to belong and want to be needed!

Wikipedia defines it as:
acceptance has to deal with positive welcome; favor and endorsement. In which, a person could like someone and, have acceptance for them due to their approval of that person.

Now who wouldn't want that?!?!?

But the real issue I'm having is: am I seeking this acceptance from the right source?

A friend of mine told me recently that if people don't think I'm good enough for them, it must really mean I'm too good for them.
Whether that's true or not, it's a nice thought.

What I've really had to realize is I am accepted. May not be by everyone but I have people who love me and who I love dearly and those are the people that matter.
And I don't need to be a part of every little group or function to be of worth. Too many times we put our value and selfworth in other peoples hands and that's giving too much of myself to someone who doesn't even realize it.
The only person I really want to learn to accept me for who I am.. is me!
Simple thought but very difficult concept.

I know I'm different. I'm not your typical 30something happy go lucky stay at home with a clean house and clean kids mormon housewife. I have a potty mouth. I'm not thin with a pug nose. I do crazy things with my hair. I say things often before thinking. I drink caffeine. I don't cook every meal. In fact I hate cooking. And cleaning! I can go on and on and on. And I'm okay with all of this because that's what makes me me- take it or leave it! (oh please take it! hahahah)

BUT I have a good heart. And a lot of love. And I would do anything for anyone! And I love my family...they will always come first.

And today my friends- that is good enough for me!

I do have a confession and apology however- I am not always very accepting of others either. I want to me. And I'm working to be.

Which is why I really like this poem..... in the grand scheme of things, we all want to feel the same thing!



Accept me as I am I have no guarantee.
A claim to perfection I have not. Perfect I cannot be.

I, like human. Prone to make mistakes.
Failure is not a character flaw, Just a part of the human makeup.

I live, I laugh and I also learn. My knowledge is incomplete.
I am searching all the time, in waking hours as well as sleep.

I have a long road to travel, as well as you do.
We learn our lessons on the way. Wisdom we shall accrue.

So please accept me as I am Because I am .... Just me.
No one like me in the world. That is my only guarantee.

This is how I feel I have a heart, open it and see
Please take care That's all I am, just me.


Jen said...

I love you. I'm going to miss you so freaking much. It's so... relaxing to have a friend who deals with the same issues that I do. Hopefully, we both learn to get over the ones who dislike us and embrace more fully those who adore us.

You're Amazing!

Keaven Neely said...

Shannon, I adore you and all your quirks. Without them you wouldn't be as crazy awesome as you are. Love you!